Let $A,B\in M_3(\mathbb{C})$ be invertible matrices such that $AB=BA=X$, $A^{T}+A=B^{T}+B=X^{T}+X$, then:
(A) $A=B$
(B) $\det(A-I)=0$
(C) $\det(B-I)=0$
(D) $\det(X-I)=0$
My working: $AB+(AB)^T=X+X^T\implies AB+B^TA^T=B+B^T\implies (A-I)B+B^T(A^T-I)=O_3$ $\implies (A-I)B+((A-I)B)^T=O_3\implies (A-I)B$ is skew symmetric matrix of order $3$ $\implies \det(A-I)=0$.
Similarly $\det (B-I)=0$.
How to check option D any counter example for D?
Further progress:
$A^T+A=B^T+B\iff A= \begin{pmatrix} \alpha & a_1 & a_2 \\ x-a_1 & \beta & a_3 \\ y-a_2 & z-a_3 & \gamma \end{pmatrix}$ and $B =\begin{pmatrix} \alpha & b_1 & b_2 \\ x-b_1 & \beta & b_3 \\ y-b_2 & z-b_3 & \gamma \end{pmatrix}$.
Counter example for (A):
$A=I_3$ and $B= \begin{pmatrix} 1 & b_1 & b_2 \\ -b_1 & 1 & b_3 \\ -b_2 & -b_3 & 1 \end{pmatrix}\implies AB=BA=B\implies X=B$.
We can see that all conditions meet out and $A\ne B$ for at least one $b_i\ne0$.
Note that two $3\times3$ skew symmetric matrices $Y$ and $Z$ commute only if they are linearly dependent. More specifically, note that \begin{aligned} YZ&:=\pmatrix{0&-y_3&y_2\\ y_3&0&-y_1\\ -y_2&y_1&0} \pmatrix{0&-z_3&z_2\\ z_3&0&-z_1\\ -z_2&z_1&0}\\ &=\pmatrix{-(y_2z_2+y_3z_3)&y_2z_1&y_3z_1\\ y_1z_2&-(y_1z_1+y_3z_3)&y_3z_2\\ y_1z_3&y_2z_3&-(y_1z_1+y_2z_2)}\\ &=\mathbf z\mathbf y^T-\mathbf y^T\mathbf zI \end{aligned} where $\mathbf y=(y_1,y_2,y_3)^T$ and $\mathbf z$ is defined analogously. (This is actually the vector triple product formula.) So, if $YZ=ZY$, we get $\mathbf z\mathbf y^T=\mathbf y\mathbf z^T$. Hence $\mathbf y$ and $\mathbf z$ are linearly dependent and $Y,Z$ are linearly dependent too.
Now return to your question. You have already shown that $Y:=(A-I)B$ and $Z:=(B-I)A$ are skew symmetric. Since $A$ and $B$ commute, so do $Y$ and $Z$. Hence $Y$ and $Z$ are linearly dependent. As $3\times3$ skew symmetric matrices are singular, we have $Yv=Zv=0$ for some nonzero vector $v$. This implies that $0\ne w:=Bv=ABv=BAv=Av$ and $Aw=w=Bw$. Thus $ABw=w$ and $X-I$ is singular.