If an operator $T$ is self-adjoint, why is the matrix of $T$ symmetric if and only if the basis is orthonormal?
I'm seeing that this is what is being said in Artin's Algebra, Treil's Linear Algebra Done Wrong, and Hoffman and Kunze's Linear Algebra, but no justification is given.
How do I show that:
Let $T$ be a self-adjoint operator on a complex inner product space $V$ and let $\beta$ be a basis for $V$ . The matrix of $T$ is Hermitian if and only if $\beta$ is orthonormal.
I'm assuming you are working over complex numbers (I'll denote the complex conjugation by $*$) and let $(-,-)$ be the inner product. Let $M$ be the matrix of $T$ in basis $\beta=\{\beta_1, \cdots, \beta_n\}$, i.e. $T\beta_j = \sum_{i=1}^n M_{ij}\beta_i$.
Suppose $\beta$ is orthonormal, then by taking the inner product of the above equation with $\beta_i$, you find $$ (\beta_i, T\beta_j)=M_{ij}=(T\beta_j, \beta_i)^* $$ But $T$ is self-adjoint, so $M_{ij}=(\beta_i, T\beta_j)=(T\beta_i, \beta_j)={M_{ji}}^*$, meaning $M$ is hermitian.
Conversely, note that the whole argument is completely reversible, so you find that if $\beta$ is a basis such that $M$ is hermitian then, given any pair $i,j$ we have $$ M_{ij} = M_{ji}^*\Longrightarrow (\beta_i, T\beta_j)=(T\beta_i,\beta_j) $$ Therefore, by bilinearity of inner product and since $\beta$ is a basis, given any two vectors $v,w$, one has $(v,Tw)=(Tv,w)$, i.e. $T$ is self-adjoint.