Hints please! Also, what are the authors talking about in the second part of the question? Aren’t the two functionals in the first part also linear transformations whose null space is the above span?
Note: I realise that this question has already been asked here - Finding linear functionals on $\mathbb R^4$ the intersection of whose null spaces is a linear span. I’m posting this again as the only answer to the linked question does not explain how the solution was obtained or give any hints for solving the problem.

Hopefully these hints work for the OP. I have also provided full solutions, hidden inside spoilers, for other readers.
Constructing the linear functionals
Let's call the two linear functionals $$ f_1:\mathbb{R}^4\to\mathbb{R}\,,~~~~~~~~~~ f_2:\mathbb{R}^4\to\mathbb{R}\,. $$ Take $v_1=(1,1,1,1)$, $v_2=(1,0,-1,0)$, and extend this to a basis by finding $v_3$ and $v_4$ such that $\{v_1,v_2,v_3,v_4\}$ are linearly independent. Using the fact that the dimension of the kernel for each of these linear functionals is
construct $f_1$ and $f_2$ by defining the action of these operators on the basis elements above so that the intersection of the kernels is the span of $v_1$ and $v_2$. Here is a more detailed hint:
and here is the actual construction:
Constructing the linear transformation
I'm not entirely sure that this is what the second question is getting at, but here's my take on it. Note that $v_1$ and $v_2$ are not chosen entirely arbitrary, i.e., they are "related" in a way, i.e., they are
Based on that observation, what is the most natural way to choose $v_3$ and $v_4$ to extend to a full basis for $\mathbb{R}^4$? Well,
Once you have that special basis in hand, there is a "natural" choice of linear transformation that has $v_1$ and $v_2$ as an (orthogonal) basis for the kernel.
Hint 1:
Hint 2:
Example
Here is I think the most natural way of doing this construction
Basis:
Construction of the linear functionals:
Construction of the linear functionals in terms of components:
Construction of the associated linear transformation:
Construction of the associated linear transformation as a matrix: