I just applied Cauchy Schwarz inequality to find
$$-4 \leq |f(x, y)| \leq 4. $$
So I believe the maximum is $4$ and the minimum is $-4$. The maximum is attained when $x = (1, 1)$ and $y = (2, 2)$. The minimum can attained when $x = (-1 , -1)$ and $y = (2, 2)$.
Is this enough to prove that my bounds are optimal? If not, how can I do so?
Cauchy-Schwarz actually gives you a bound of 2, not 4. In this case $x_i = \frac{1}{\sqrt{n}}$ and $y_i = \frac{2}{\sqrt{n}}$ suffice for the maximum, and negating all the $x_i$ produces the minimum.