I define the following partial order $\succ$ of vectors: if $\mathbf{x}=(x_1,\dots,x_n)$ and $\mathbf{y}=(y_1,\dots,y_n)$ such that for some $i$ and $j$, $y_i y_j > x_i x_j$ and $y_i+y_j=x_i+x_j$, but for all $k \neq i,j$ we have $y_k=x_k$, then $\mathbf{y} \succ \mathbf{x}$.
In my application, vectors are of non-negative integers. So, that for example $(1,1,1) \succ (2,0,1) \succ (0,0,3)$, but $(2,2,2,0)$ and $(3,1,1,1)$ are not comparable.
Is there a name for such order? It comes out as a natural property of a proof in a larger project I'm working on and I do not want to reinvent a wheel if it is already known in some literature.
It looks like there won't be a definite answer to this question. Just to wrap up my current thinking on this: let $S(\mathbf{x}) = \sum_{i \neq j} x_i x_j$ and let $\mathbf{x} \succ_S \mathbf{y}$ iff $S(\mathbf{x}) > S(\mathbf{y})$. Then $\succ_S$ is a total order that expands $\succ$ for obvious reasons. It is also equivalent to many other reasonable orders, such as the one that minimizes the Euclidean distance from $\mathbf{0}$ or from $\mathbf{1}$, etc. But unfortunately, it is not the answer I was looking for as the ordering of elements that are not pairwise comparable (as in my definition) is not the one I'm looking for.