Define for a fixed $A \in \mathbb{M}^{2 \times 2}(\mathbb{R})$ the mapping:
$$L_A : \mathbb{M}^{2 \times 2}(\mathbb{R}) \to \mathbb{M}^{2 \times 2}(\mathbb{R}) : X \mapsto AX-XA. $$
Define on $\mathbb{M}^{2 \times 2}(\mathbb{R})$ the dotproduct $\langle \cdot , \cdot \rangle$ as follows: $ \langle X, Y \rangle = [X]_{\xi}^t [Y]_{\xi}$.
Here is $[\cdot ]_\xi$ the coordinate map that belongs to the standard basis
$$\xi = \{ E_1 = {\begin{pmatrix} 1 & 0 \\ 0 & 0 \end{pmatrix}}, E_2={\begin{pmatrix} 0 & 0 \\ 1 & 0 \end{pmatrix}}, E_3={\begin{pmatrix} 0 & 1 \\ 0 & 0 \end{pmatrix}}, E_4={\begin{pmatrix} 0 & 0 \\ 0 & 1 \end{pmatrix}} \}$$ of $\mathbb{M}^{2 \times 2}(\mathbb{R})$.
Write $M_A$ for the matrix such that for all $X \in \mathbb{M}^{2 \times 2}(\mathbb{R})$ it satisfies $[L_A (X)]_\xi=M_A [X]_\xi$.
Prove that $L_A$ is symmetric if and only if $A$ is symmetric.
In a previous exercise I had to determine all the matrices $M_{E_1}, M_{E_2}, M_{E_3}, M_{E_4}$. And this is the result:
$M_{E_1} = {\begin{pmatrix} 0 & 0 & 0 & 0 \\ 0 & -1 & 0 & 0 \\ 0 & 0 & 1 & 0 \\ 0 & 0 & 0 & 0 \end{pmatrix}},~M_{E_2}={\begin{pmatrix} 0 & 0 & -1 & 0 \\ 1 & 0 & 0 & -1 \\ 0 & 0 & 0 & 0 \\ 0 & 0 & 1 & 0 \end{pmatrix}}, ~M_{E_3}={\begin{pmatrix} 0 & 1 & 0 & 0 \\ 0 & 0 & 0 & 0 \\ -1 & -1 & 0 & 1 \\ 0 & 0 & 0 & 0 \end{pmatrix}}, \\M_{E_4}={\begin{pmatrix} 0 & 0 & 0 & 0 \\ 0 & 1 & 0 & 0 \\ 0 & 0 & -1 & 0 \\ 0 & 0 & 0 & 0 \end{pmatrix}}$
How am I to use this to prove the given problem? I already showed that $L_A$ is symmetric if and only if $M_A$ is symmetric, meaning $\langle L_A(X), Y \rangle = \langle X, L_A(Y) \rangle$ if and only if $M_A = M_A^t$.
I am at a loss. Thanks in advance.
Let $A=\pmatrix{a&b\\ c&d}$. Then $M_A=aM_{E_1}+cM_{E_2}+bM_{E_3}+dM_{E_4}$. Here are some entries of $M_A$: $$ M_A=\pmatrix{ 0 &b &-c &0\\ c &d-a &0 &-c\\ -b &0 &\ast &\ast\\ 0 &-b &\ast &\ast}.\tag{1} $$ And I will leave the rest to you. Now, the given inner product $\langle X,Y\rangle$ is the usual dot product of $[X]_{\xi}$ and $[Y]_{\xi}$ in $\mathbb{R}^4$. Therefore, $L_A$ is symmetric w.r.t. $\langle\cdot,\cdot\rangle$ if and only if $M_A$ is a symmetric matrix. More specifically, \begin{align*} L_A \text{ is symmetric } &\Leftrightarrow \langle L_A(X),Y\rangle=\langle X,L_A(Y)\rangle \text{ for all } X,Y\in M^{2\times2}(\mathbb{R})\\ &\Leftrightarrow [X]_{\xi}^tM_A^t [Y]_{\xi}=[X]_{\xi}^t M_A[Y]_{\xi} \text{ for all } X,Y\in M^{2\times2}(\mathbb{R})\\ &\Leftrightarrow u^tM_A^tv=u^t M_Av \text{ for all } u,v\in \mathbb{R}^4\\ &\Leftrightarrow M_A^t=M_A. \end{align*}
From $(1)$, we see that for $M_A$ to be symmetric, a necessary condition is $b=c$. If you could determine the unspecified entries of $M_A$ correctly (note that your $M_{E_3}$ is wrong; there's perhaps a typo), you will see that $b=c$ is also a sufficient condition. Hence the result.