I'm trying to prove that $G := \langle a, b, c \mid abc^{-1}a^{-1}, bcb \rangle$ is not isomorphic to $H := \langle a, b \rangle$.
If they are isomorphic, then their abelianizations $G/[G, G] = \langle a, b, c \mid abc^{-1}a^{-1}, bcb, abc^{-1}a^{-1}, bcb, aba^{-1}b^{-1}, bcb^{-1}c^{-1} \rangle$ and $H/[H, H] = \langle a, b \mid aba^{-1}b^{-1} \rangle$ are isomorphic. Writing those groups as $\langle a, b, c \rangle / N$ and $\langle a, b \rangle /M$ for ease of notation, we can write any element in $G/[G, G]$ as $a^nb^mc^kN$ due to the words $aba^{-1}b^{-1}, bcb^{-1}c^{-1}$ and then as $a^nc^{m + k}N$ due to the word $abc^{-1}a^{-1}$. I don't see how we proceed from here.
You are almost done:
$H/[H,H]\cong\mathbb{Z}^2$
In $G/[G,G]$, we have $1=abc^{-1}a^{-1}=bc^{-1}$ so $b=c$. Therefore $1=bcb=b^3$ so $G/[G,G]\cong\mathbb{Z}\times \mathbb{Z}/3\mathbb{Z}$