I want to show that the minimum polynomial of $\sqrt{2} + i$ over $\mathbb{R}$ is $p(x) = x^2-2\sqrt{2}x + 3$. I've shown that $\sqrt{2} + i$ is a root of $p(x)$. I'm done if I show that $p(x)$ is irreducible, but am having trouble proving this—any strategies here?
I was also thinking of getting around this by saying that, reducing over $\mathbb{C}$, we have $p(x) = (x - (\sqrt{2} + i))(x - (\sqrt{2} - i))$. Because $\mathbb{C}$ contains $\mathbb{R}$, and because polynomials are uniquely factorized, $p(x)$ could not possibly be reduced $\mathbb{R}$. Is this reasoning ok?
Yes, your reasoning is okay. However, you should be aware that you are making an implicit degree argument of the sort that Dustan explicitly calls out in the comments. The reason $p(x)$ could not possibly be reduced in $\mathbb R$ is that no proper non-empty subset of the complex-valued factors can be combined to form a polynomial with real coefficients, and that's happening because the factors have degree $1$ and the original polynomial has degree $2$.
In the degree $3$ case, the analogous claim also holds because if some two factors multiply to a real polynomial, then the remaining factor (being the quotient) must also be real. However, for a degree $4$ polynomial you would want to check that no pair of linear factors combine to form a degree $2$ polynomial with real coefficients.
Now you may have already had this in mind when you wrote your argument. But identifying this sort of unspoken assumption is a really vital skill in writing mathematics, and probably the fact that you didn't identify it explicitly contributed to your uncertainty about whether your argument is actually complete.