Let $V$ be a vector space and $B: V \times V \to \Bbb R$ be a bilinear form.
Usually, I see books defining that if $B$ is symmetric, vectors ${\bf u},{\bf v} \in V$ are $B$-orthogonal if $B({\bf u},{\bf v}) = 0$, and there is no problem in this, since $B({\bf u},{\bf v}) = B({\bf v},{\bf u})$.
Then, asking for symmetry of $B$ seems a lot, after seeing the definition: $B$ is reflexive if for any ${\bf u},{\bf v} \in V$, $B({\bf u},{\bf v}) = 0 \implies B({\bf v},{\bf u}) = 0 $.
We can define orthogonality for reflexive bilinear forms. Clearly anti-symmetric forms are reflexive too.
Question: can you give me an example of a reflexive bilinear form which is not symmetric or anti-symmetric?
$$f((x,y); (s,t)) = ys + 2 xt.$$ So $$f((s,t);(x,y) ) = tx + 2 sy.$$ Because the matrix $$ \left( \begin{array}{rr} 0 & 2 \\ 1 & 0 \end{array} \right) $$ is not symmetric or antisymmetric.
For second version of the question, from books by Larry C. Grove, either Groups and Characters (1997) or Classical Groups and Geometric Algebra (2002), a bilinear form is reflexive if and only if it is either symmetric or "alternating," where alternating means that $B(v,v) = 0$ for every $v.$ Meanwhile, every alternating form is also skew symmetric, just expand $B(u+v,u+v).$ So there is no example such as was requested.
Meanwhile, in characteristic 2, there are symmetric (same as skew symmetric now) forms that are not alternating, which are then also not reflexive. Go Figure.