I interpret the expression 'If P then Q' as asserting that if P is true Q is automatically true. So, we would say 'If P then Q' is true only when it indeed is the case that P being true implies Q is true. However, in logic, the truth of 'If P then Q' is determined solely on the basis of the truth values of P and Q individually and not by verifying whether Q follows from P, or is implied by P.
So I just don't get how we can decide the truth of if-then statements by just looking at the truth values of P and Q. For it to be true don't we need to prove somehow that the truth of Q follows from the truth of P?
In one of the logic books that I read, they explained conditional statements in this manner: 'If P then Q' asserts that it is not the case that P is true and Q is false. I liked this. It makes me understand the truth table of conditional statements well. However, by this explanation, I'm not able to see why would one use the words 'If then' then. How the idea that it is not the case that P is true and Q is false follows from the meaning of words 'if then' (or 'implies' for that matter).
Should I completely forget about the meaning of if-then sentences as used in ordinary language and assign them a new meaning?
In my opinion, the best way to understand the arrow $\to$ is by pure definition, that is, it is a binary connective forming a complex proposition by joining two other propositions, the antecedent and consequent, such that the complex propostion is false if and only if the antecedent is true and the conequent is false.
However, I offer a semantic approach to help with your intuition...
Assume we have the following conditional statement: if Jonnny is grounded, then Johnny cannot play outside.
Is this conditional false if the antecedent is false and the consequent is true? In other words, is this conditional false if Jonny is not grounded and cannot play outside? The answer is no because it may be dinner time, or it may be time for Johnny to be asleep in bed. In other words, the condition that "Johnny is grounded" is sufficient to prevent Johnny from playing outside, but it is not necessary to prevent Johnny from playing outside.
Now, is this conditional false if the antecedent is false and the consequent is false? In other words, is this conditional false if Johnny is not grounded and can play outside? For obvious reasons, no. This interpretation does not imply the conditional is false.
The only interpretation that guarantees the conditional is false is when the antecedent is true and the consequent is false. In other words, the conditional is false if and only if Johnny is indeed grounded and Johnny can play outside.