$$\begin{bmatrix} x_1 & x_2 & x_3 \end{bmatrix}\begin{bmatrix} 4 & 1 & 1\\1 & 2 & -1 \\ 1 & -1 & 3 \end{bmatrix}\begin{bmatrix} x_1\\x_2\\x_3 \end{bmatrix} = \\4x_1^2 + x_1x_2 + x_3x_1 + x_2x_1 + 2x_2^2 -x_2x_3 + x_1x_3-x_2x_3+3x_3^2$$
which I cannot put in a form that is $>0$. So how can this matrix be positive definite?
I think you are asking about repeated completing the square: as matrices, one such $$ Q^T D Q = H $$ $$\left( \begin{array}{rrr} 1 & 0 & 0 \\ \frac{ 1 }{ 4 } & 1 & 0 \\ \frac{ 1 }{ 4 } & - \frac{ 5 }{ 7 } & 1 \\ \end{array} \right) \left( \begin{array}{rrr} 4 & 0 & 0 \\ 0 & \frac{ 7 }{ 4 } & 0 \\ 0 & 0 & \frac{ 13 }{ 7 } \\ \end{array} \right) \left( \begin{array}{rrr} 1 & \frac{ 1 }{ 4 } & \frac{ 1 }{ 4 } \\ 0 & 1 & - \frac{ 5 }{ 7 } \\ 0 & 0 & 1 \\ \end{array} \right) = \left( \begin{array}{rrr} 4 & 1 & 1 \\ 1 & 2 & - 1 \\ 1 & - 1 & 3 \\ \end{array} \right) $$
which can be revised (put all denominators into the diagonal matrix) to $$ \frac{1}{4} \left(4x+y+z \right)^2 + \frac{1}{28} \left(7y-5z \right)^2 + \frac{13}{7} \left(z \right)^2 $$
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sylvester%27s_law_of_inertia
$$ H = \left( \begin{array}{rrr} 4 & 1 & 1 \\ 1 & 2 & - 1 \\ 1 & - 1 & 3 \\ \end{array} \right) $$ $$ D_0 = H $$ $$ E_j^T D_{j-1} E_j = D_j $$ $$ P_{j-1} E_j = P_j $$ $$ E_j^{-1} Q_{j-1} = Q_j $$ $$ P_j Q_j = Q_j P_j = I $$ $$ P_j^T H P_j = D_j $$ $$ Q_j^T D_j Q_j = H $$
$$ H = \left( \begin{array}{rrr} 4 & 1 & 1 \\ 1 & 2 & - 1 \\ 1 & - 1 & 3 \\ \end{array} \right) $$
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$$ E_{1} = \left( \begin{array}{rrr} 1 & - \frac{ 1 }{ 4 } & 0 \\ 0 & 1 & 0 \\ 0 & 0 & 1 \\ \end{array} \right) $$ $$ P_{1} = \left( \begin{array}{rrr} 1 & - \frac{ 1 }{ 4 } & 0 \\ 0 & 1 & 0 \\ 0 & 0 & 1 \\ \end{array} \right) , \; \; \; Q_{1} = \left( \begin{array}{rrr} 1 & \frac{ 1 }{ 4 } & 0 \\ 0 & 1 & 0 \\ 0 & 0 & 1 \\ \end{array} \right) , \; \; \; D_{1} = \left( \begin{array}{rrr} 4 & 0 & 1 \\ 0 & \frac{ 7 }{ 4 } & - \frac{ 5 }{ 4 } \\ 1 & - \frac{ 5 }{ 4 } & 3 \\ \end{array} \right) $$
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$$ E_{2} = \left( \begin{array}{rrr} 1 & 0 & - \frac{ 1 }{ 4 } \\ 0 & 1 & 0 \\ 0 & 0 & 1 \\ \end{array} \right) $$ $$ P_{2} = \left( \begin{array}{rrr} 1 & - \frac{ 1 }{ 4 } & - \frac{ 1 }{ 4 } \\ 0 & 1 & 0 \\ 0 & 0 & 1 \\ \end{array} \right) , \; \; \; Q_{2} = \left( \begin{array}{rrr} 1 & \frac{ 1 }{ 4 } & \frac{ 1 }{ 4 } \\ 0 & 1 & 0 \\ 0 & 0 & 1 \\ \end{array} \right) , \; \; \; D_{2} = \left( \begin{array}{rrr} 4 & 0 & 0 \\ 0 & \frac{ 7 }{ 4 } & - \frac{ 5 }{ 4 } \\ 0 & - \frac{ 5 }{ 4 } & \frac{ 11 }{ 4 } \\ \end{array} \right) $$
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$$ E_{3} = \left( \begin{array}{rrr} 1 & 0 & 0 \\ 0 & 1 & \frac{ 5 }{ 7 } \\ 0 & 0 & 1 \\ \end{array} \right) $$ $$ P_{3} = \left( \begin{array}{rrr} 1 & - \frac{ 1 }{ 4 } & - \frac{ 3 }{ 7 } \\ 0 & 1 & \frac{ 5 }{ 7 } \\ 0 & 0 & 1 \\ \end{array} \right) , \; \; \; Q_{3} = \left( \begin{array}{rrr} 1 & \frac{ 1 }{ 4 } & \frac{ 1 }{ 4 } \\ 0 & 1 & - \frac{ 5 }{ 7 } \\ 0 & 0 & 1 \\ \end{array} \right) , \; \; \; D_{3} = \left( \begin{array}{rrr} 4 & 0 & 0 \\ 0 & \frac{ 7 }{ 4 } & 0 \\ 0 & 0 & \frac{ 13 }{ 7 } \\ \end{array} \right) $$
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$$ P^T H P = D $$ $$\left( \begin{array}{rrr} 1 & 0 & 0 \\ - \frac{ 1 }{ 4 } & 1 & 0 \\ - \frac{ 3 }{ 7 } & \frac{ 5 }{ 7 } & 1 \\ \end{array} \right) \left( \begin{array}{rrr} 4 & 1 & 1 \\ 1 & 2 & - 1 \\ 1 & - 1 & 3 \\ \end{array} \right) \left( \begin{array}{rrr} 1 & - \frac{ 1 }{ 4 } & - \frac{ 3 }{ 7 } \\ 0 & 1 & \frac{ 5 }{ 7 } \\ 0 & 0 & 1 \\ \end{array} \right) = \left( \begin{array}{rrr} 4 & 0 & 0 \\ 0 & \frac{ 7 }{ 4 } & 0 \\ 0 & 0 & \frac{ 13 }{ 7 } \\ \end{array} \right) $$ $$ Q^T D Q = H $$ $$\left( \begin{array}{rrr} 1 & 0 & 0 \\ \frac{ 1 }{ 4 } & 1 & 0 \\ \frac{ 1 }{ 4 } & - \frac{ 5 }{ 7 } & 1 \\ \end{array} \right) \left( \begin{array}{rrr} 4 & 0 & 0 \\ 0 & \frac{ 7 }{ 4 } & 0 \\ 0 & 0 & \frac{ 13 }{ 7 } \\ \end{array} \right) \left( \begin{array}{rrr} 1 & \frac{ 1 }{ 4 } & \frac{ 1 }{ 4 } \\ 0 & 1 & - \frac{ 5 }{ 7 } \\ 0 & 0 & 1 \\ \end{array} \right) = \left( \begin{array}{rrr} 4 & 1 & 1 \\ 1 & 2 & - 1 \\ 1 & - 1 & 3 \\ \end{array} \right) $$