I am preparing a talk on the Eightfold Way, and am attempting to explain the spectra of the light mesons/baryons via representation theory. It will be delivered to students who have never seen representation theory before. I understand the arrangement of particles can be explained by reps of $\mathrm{SU}(3)$, e.g. the light mesons ($\mathrm{u}$, $\mathrm{d}$, $\mathrm{s}$) correspond to the representation $\mathbf{3} \otimes \mathbf{\bar{3}}$ of $\mathrm{SU}(3)$, which I understand decomposes as $\mathbf{3} \otimes \mathbf{\bar{3}} = \mathbf{8} \oplus \mathbf{1}$.
Is there a simple and elementary way to derive this decomposition, i.e. without needing to know a lot of Lie groups/rep theory?
I've seen Young diagrams used as a tool, but still have not been able to understand how they work. If someone could give a self-contained explanation, or direct me to where I could find one, that would be great. I know group theory and surface-level stuff, and am willing to blindly accept some facts [e.g. that there exist representations $\mathbf{1}$, $\mathbf{3}$, $\mathbf{6}$, $\mathbf{8}$ of $\mathrm{SU}(3)$], but I'd like to give some motivation for the formula $\mathbf{3} \otimes \mathbf{\bar{3}} = \mathbf{8} \oplus \mathbf{1}$ without just handwaving it.
Same for the baryons: $\mathbf{3} \otimes \mathbf{3} \otimes \mathbf{3} = \mathbf{10} \oplus \mathbf{8} \oplus \mathbf{8} \oplus \mathbf{1}$.
$SU(3)$ has 2 fundamental representations, which I denote $t_a$ ($\bar{3}$) and $t^a$ ($3$). The transformation rules under an element $S$ of $SU(3)$ are $t^a\mapsto {S^a}_bt^b$ and $t_a\mapsto {S^H_a}^b t_b$, where $S^H$ denotes the conjugate transpose matrix. Being unitary, $S$ preserves ${\delta^a}_b$ and being special, it preserves the antisymmetric tensors $\epsilon^{abc}$ and $\epsilon_{abc}$. $3\otimes3$ then is the mixed tensor ${T^a}_b$, which breaks down into an irreducible 8 dimensional trace free component ( ${T^a}_b{\delta^b}_a=0$) and a one dimensional trace ${\delta^a}_b$.
$3\otimes3\otimes3$ becomes the tensor $T^{abc}$. This tensor breaks down into a fully symmetric tensor $T^{(abc)}$, which can be shown to be 10 dimensional (the number of ways 3 can be expressed as a sum of 3 non-negative integers), the one dimensional totally antisymmetric tensor, and two 8 dimensional tensors. The 8 dimensional tensors can be written as $T^{abc} = {T^a}_d\epsilon^{dbc}$ and $T^{abc} = {T^c}_d\epsilon^{dab}$, where, again, ${T^a}_b$ is trace free.
In general, irreducible representations can be written as ${T^{(abc...f)}}_{(ghi...p)}$, where "()" denotes symmetrization and $T$ is trace free.