I hope it is OK to post this question here...
I'm currently in my 2nd year of maths at uni (doing cal 2, discrete, prob/stat) and hadn't studied maths formally for about 15 years beforehand. In my first year I did somewhat OK and scraped a pass in all of my modules (alg 1, calc 1, proofs) with thanks to distance exams. Otherwise, I would have absolutely failed.
I enjoy maths... the whole problem solving/challenging aspect is what drives me. However, I cry almost everyday because I'm so frustrated at how little I actually "get" it and it's actually starting to depress me (I dedicate at least 40 hrs p/week, 7 days a week to it). On the other hand, my boyfriend can look at a question, investigate it a little online and it makes sense to him with little effort.
In terms of learning methods I've found that notes do zilch. Perhaps my notetaking is just bad but I've found it wasted my time. My comp is full of ebooks as recommended by the staff too. So I have many sources of info at my hands but yet my intuition or core understanding is roughly the same as when I started.
Exams are in 5-6 months, I'm already getting myself stressed about it and I have to improve. I know maths is challenging, that's whats great about it! But when you find yourself staring at a question that involves bayesian theorem, wondering why the heck you have to even use division, then there's something missing.
Would it be most effective to simply do as many exercises as possible? How do you conceptualise theorems, etc and apply them to problems?
Any tips would be hugely appreciated :) Thank you in advance.
I am also someone new in formal mathematics, so I hope to be of use.
First, don't compare yourself to others; the best way you can measure your performance is by looking at how much you've grown in math. My advice is to try to exchange ideas with friends or colleagues; you can also start the homework problems trying to see them from an "informal" point of view and then have a general idea and be able to formally write the solution / proof.
If you have no idea how solving the exercise tries to "discover" what is the meaning of the exercise and thus be able to invest in a specific way on that topic by reading similar proofs or seeing some solved exercises. Also, take a break from time to time, I understand that you want to level yourself but mental health and well-being is important, so take breaks from time to time and enjoy math.