If we forget all the rules about infinte sums what am I doing wrong?
$$1-2+3-4+5-6+...=\sum_{n=1}^{\infty} n(-1)^{n+1}$$
(with Grandi's series)
$$1,1+(-2)=-1,1+(-2)+3=2,1+(-2)+3+(-4)=-2,...$$ we got a sequence: $1,-1,2,-2,3,-3,4,-4,5,-5,...$ but that turns out to nothing and if we look to the averanges of the partial sums:
$$1,\frac{1+(-2)}{2},\frac{1+(-2)+3}{3},\frac{1+(-2)+3+(-4)}{4},\frac{1+(-2)+3+(-4)+5}{5},...$$ we got: $1,-\frac{1}{2},\frac{2}{3},-\frac{1}{2},\frac{3}{5},...$
If we take: $1+\frac{2}{3}+\frac{3}{5}+...$ we got:
$$1+\frac{2}{3}+\frac{3}{5}+...=\sum_{n=1}^{\infty} \frac{n}{-1+2n}$$
and then we found:
$$\lim_{n\to \infty} \frac{n}{-1+2n}=\frac{1}{2}$$
can we say that:
$$1-2+3-4+5-6+...=\sum_{n=1}^{\infty} n(-1)^{n+1}=\frac{1}{2}$$
One can say: $1 - 2 + 3 - 4 + \dots = \sum (-1)^n n = \frac{1}{4}$ e.g. Wikipedia. These can be formalized using Borel (re)summation or Euler summation
To understand Euler's idea let's do the simpler alternating sum first:
$$ S = (1 - 1 ) + (1 - 1) + \dots = 1 + (-1 + 1 )+ (-1 + 1)+ \dots = 1 -S$$
Therefore $2S = 1$ and $S = \frac{1}{2}$. Here we have used that the obvious-looking additive identity: $$\bbox[5px, border: 2px solid #6B6CED]{ (-1 + 1 )+ (-1 + 1)+ \dots = - \big[ (1 -1) + (1 -1) + \dots \big]}$$
The analogous story for the sequence $+1,-2,+3,-4,\dots$ requires more manipulation but the story is essentially the same. Here we group by three terms
$$ S = 1 -2 + 3 -4 + \dots = 1- (2 - 3+4 - 5 + \dots )$$
What next? Split this arithmetic sequence into two terms:
$$ 1- (2 - 3+4 - 5 + \dots ) = 1 - \big[ 1-1+1-1+\dots \big] - \big[ 1 -2 + 3 -4 + \dots\big] = 1 - \frac{1}{2} - S $$
This gives you $\bbox[5px, border: 2px solid #6B6CED]{S = \frac{1}{4}}$
Beware plausible-looking manipulations can give you other numbers. While writing this I also showed $S = \color{red}{-}\frac{1}{4}$.