
(1.) I don't understand above. How do you magically envisage and envision to let $b = xax^{-1}$?
What I did was to start from the answer and see if I can get a chain of equivalences. $ax = xa \iff ax\color{darkcyan}{x^{-1}} = xa\color{darkcyan}{x^{-1}} \iff a = xax^{-1}$ $\begin{align} \Leftarrow or \iff a^2 & = (xax^{-1})^2 \\ e & = \end{align} $.
Hence $ax = xa \Leftarrow e = (xax^{-1})^2.$ Hence if I sally forth from the $RHS$ to $LHS$ then I'm done?
But I never used $a$ was unique?
(2.) What's the intuition? $ax = xa$ looks like commutativity. Hence $G$ is Abelian?
Update Jan. 7 2014: The comments and answers involve 'center, 'conjugate' which aren't covered up to this time. I didn't know they are needed here. Hence I'll return. Are there simpler answers?
You're given $\;a\in G\;$ is the unique element of order $\;2\;$ in $\;G\;$ . Now, we have that
$$\forall\,x\in G\;,\;\;(xax^{-1})^2=xax^{-1}xax^{-1}=xa^2x^{-1}=xx^{-1}=1$$
so by the above uniqueness it must be that
$$xax^{-1}=a\iff xa=ax\;,\;\;\text{since it can not be}\;\;xax^{-1}=1\;\;\text{(why?)}$$
The above means that $\;a\in Z(G):=\{g\in G\;;\;gx=xg\;\;\forall\,x\in G\}=\;$ the group's center