Suppose $S$ is a nonempty set and $*:S\times S\rightarrow S.$ To combine three elements $a, b, c\in S$ using $*$, we have to
(1) choose which two elements to combine first and in what order, and
(2) determine the order in which we combine the result from (1) with the remaining element.
There are four ways to carry this out if we choose to first combine $a$ with $b$ in some way -- similarly for the cases in which we choose to first combine $a$ with $c$ and $b$ with $c$.
$\color{red}{(ab)c}\quad (ac)b\quad (bc)a$
$c(ab)\quad b(ac)\quad \color{red}{a(bc)}$
$(ba)c\quad (ca)b\quad (cb)a$
$c(ba)\quad b(ca)\quad a(cb)$
So why are only two of these possibilities (in red) considered reasonable interpretations of the ambiguous expression $a*b*c$? Couldn't $*(a,b,c)$ be defined using any of the twelve possibilities for combing three elements? I'm trying to understand how we define products of three or more elements in terms of products of two elements and how the associative property relates to this.
All the other combinations require that $*$ is also commutative, i.e. $a * b = b*a$: you have to change the order of the elements to obtain them.