The fact that a set S has a proper subset T such that there is a bijection from T to S is amazing in the same way as the fact that a set is infinite.
I know that, actually, the first property is the same as the second.
However, I do not really see the link between the intuitive idea of an infinite set and the technical definition.
What are the motivations that led mathematicians to adopt such a technical definition.
How were they led from the intuitive idea of an " endless" or " inexhaustible" set ( this may express the intuitive idea) to the official definition using " proper subset" and " bijection".
First, I want to repeat that any set having the bijection-with-a-proper-subset-of-itself property is indeed pretty unintuitive. Unlike, I would say, the notion of an infinite set. So, the link between the two is indeed not immediately clear ... first one would like to see how any set could possibly have that weird property.
But, this is what Cantor showed is possible. And, once it was shown to be possible, we can try and make the link to infinite sets. And it is here that you can get a bit more intuition.
In particular, I would say that it is immediately intuitively clear that any finite set does not have the property of having a bijection between itself and a proper subset. Hence, any set with the latter property has to be infinite. So, I would say that direction should be pretty intuitive.
However, why would any infinite set have this bijection-with-proper-subset property? That is still less intuitive ... but I would say the intuition here is that since the set is infinite, you can put one element aside and the resulting set remains infinite ... and hence one ought to be able to create a bijection between any infinite set and a proper subset with one element removed (along the lines of Hilbert's Hotel).
As such, we have the intuition behind the equivalence. And, with that, something we can use as a nice technical definition. Indeed, I think it is important to realize that it is not as if we started out as thinking of infinite sets as exactly those sets with this weird property: we had the concept of an infinite set far before we were thinking about bijections. However, now that we have an equivalence with a nice and hard technical property, we can use that as a 'hard' technical definition.