Of course whenever you have two statements that each on its own sound plausible but then contradict each other, you can simply check which one is false by e.g. drawing a picture. But I hope that someone can find a clear explanation that addresses the heart of the misconception. So here is the paradox.
We know (for $x \to +\infty)$) that
$e^{-x}$ goes to zero faster than the reciprocal of any polynomial. $\tag{1}$
In particular we have that $-e^{-x}$ (which happens to be the derivative of $e^{-x}$) increases towards 0 faster than $-\frac{1}{(x+1)^2}$ (which happens to be the derivative of $\frac{1}{x + 1}$).
This means that the graph of $e^{-x}$ becomes flatter and flatter faster than that of $\frac{1}{x + 1}$ and since both start at $(0, 1)$ and tend to zero we find that $e^{-x} \geq \frac{1}{x + 1}$ and hence in particular:
$\frac{1}{x + 1}$ goes to zero faster than $e^{-x}$, $\tag{2}$
contradicting (1). What gives?
You got me for a minute until I plotted these on Desmos.
As you can see, $-\frac{1}{(x+1)^2}$ initially increases faster than $-e^{-x}$. Then, it was overtaken at around $x=2.513$.
This is enough to explain your "paradox", because $e^{-x}$ initially decreases faster than $\frac{1}{x+1}$.
In general, asymptotics only apply "for large enough $x$" and therefore should not generate paradoxes like yours.