Birthday problem is well known. Here is the graph illustrating counterintuitive fact that only 23 people in a group are enough for probability of two having the same birthday to be higher that 1/2:

Here is slightly different problem:
In a set of n randomly chosen people, what is the probability of a man and a woman having the same birthday?
Is it 1/3 of the probability from original birthday problem? (given that there are 3 possibilities for same birthday: man-man, woman-woman, woman-man)
I don't know how to approach it. :(

Suppose a person chosen at random can have any of $N$ possible birthdays with uniform probability and can be male or female with equal probability.
Consider a group of $k$ persons with $1$ to $k$ unique birthdays, such that any two or more persons with the same birthday are all of the same sex. When we add one person to this group, the possible outcomes can be organized into three events:
Event $A_{k+1}$: person $k+1$ has a different birthday than any person already present. In this case there is no "match," and the number of unique birthdays present increases by one.
Event $B_{k+1}$: person $k+1$ has the same birthday and same sex as one or more people already present. In this case there is no "match" and no change in the number of unique birthdays present.
Event $C_{k+1}$: person $k+1$ has the same birthday as one or more people already present, but opposite sex. In this case there is a "match."
If there were $U_k$ unique birthdays among the first $k$ persons, then $$P(B_{k+1}) = P(C_{k+1}) = U_k/(2N)$$ and $$P(A_{k+1}) = (2N - 2U_k)/(2N) = (N - U_k)/N.$$
Let $AB_k = A_k \cup B_k$, which is the event that the first $k$ persons did not include a SBOS (same-birthday opposite-sex pair. The probability that we first observe such a pair when we add person $k + 1$ is \begin{eqnarray} P(C_{k+1}|AB_k) &=& \sum_{u=1}^k P(C_{k+1}|U_k=u) \, P(U_k=u|AB_k) \\ &=& \sum_{u=1}^k \frac{u}{2N} P(U_k=u|AB_k) \\ &=& E_k \end{eqnarray} where $E_k = E(U_k|AB_k)$ is the conditional expectation of the number of unique birthdays among the first $k$ persons given that no male and female have the same birthday. The value of $E_k$ can be computed by the recursion \begin{eqnarray} E_{k+1} &=& \frac{(E_k + 1) \, P(A_k) + E_k \, P(B_k)}{P(A_k) + P(B_k)} \\ &=& E_k + 1 - \frac{E_k}{2N - E_k}. \end{eqnarray} where $E_1 = 1$.
In order not to find a SBOS pair in the first $k$ persons, we must not find such a pair when we add a second person to the group; then we must not find match when we add a third person, given that there was match before then; and similarly for the fourth person and every other up to and including the $k$th person. The probability of finding a SBOS pair in the first $k$ persons is $$P_k = 1 - \prod_{i=1}^{k-1} \left( 1 - \frac{E_i}{2N} \right).$$
Discussion:
The formula for $P_k$ above is related to the usual question of matching birthdays. When we ask only to match birthdays without regard to gender, however, the numerator $E_k$ becomes $k+1$ (because all birthdays in a non-matching set of people must be unique), and of course the denominator is just $N$ rather than $2N$.
If you assume that a person chosen at random is exactly 50% likely to be female and 50% likely to be male, and that the genders of any two people are independent in probability, then the chance that two people chosen at random are of opposite genders is $1/2$, not $1/3$. That's because to get two females, you need two independent events each with probability $1/2$, so the probability of the two events both occurring is $(1/2) \cdot (1/2) = 1/4$. Likewise, the probability of two males is also $1/4$. The probability of one of each is $1 - ((1/4) + (1/4)) = 1/2$; no matter which gender the first person has, the second person has a $1/2$ probability of matching it.
The naïve conclusion from this is that the probability of finding a man and a woman with the same birthday among a randomly selected set of $N$ people (where $N$ might be 23, for example) is just $1/2$ times the probability that there will be any pair of individuals in that set (regardless of gender) who have the same birthday. This is not accurate. For example, with 23 people, there is approximately a 1.32% chance that three people share the same birthday, and in that case the probability that you have at least one man and one woman is $3/4$. There is also a non-zero probability that you have two matching pairs (two different birthdays, each shared by two people), in which case the probability that at least one of those pairs is a male-female pair is $3/4$. There are also cases with more than two matching pairs, larger numbers of people with the same birthday, and so forth.
The total probability of a male and a female with the same birthday is therefore more than $1/2$ times the probability that there will be any two individuals with the same birthday.
How much more is a difficult question. The usual method for the probability of a matching pair does not work, because at any stage, as you add a new person to a group that already contains $k$ people, the probability that this person will form part of a matching pair is not $1 - k/(2 \cdot 365)$ as you might expect. If you were trying to get two people of the same gender with the same birthday, that would be the correct probability, but as you are trying to find two people of opposite gender, among the $k$ people you have already collected there may be two or more individuals that have the same birthday and the same gender. When that happens, there are fewer than $k$ possible gender-birthday combinations that will make an opposite-gender matching pair with anyone already in the room.
The Wikipedia page http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Birthday_problem gives a method for computing the probability of an opposite-gender pair with the same birthday in a room containing $m$ men and $n$ women, but that is not the question you asked. To use the formula from Wikipedia to find the probability for 23 randomly-chosen people, you could consider 24 separate cases: one for each possible split between men and women ranging from 23 women and no men, 22 women and one man, 21 women and 2 men, all the way to 23 men and no women. For each of these cases you could compute its probability (using a binomial distribution), multiply that by the probability of a suitable pair (using the formula from Wikipedia), and then add all those products together to get your total probability. I'll leave that exercise to someone else, at least for now.
Another tempting approach is to take the probability of matching birthdays (regardless of gender), subtract the probability of matching birthdays and gender, and trust that the result is the probability of matching birthdays and opposite genders. Unfortunately, as soon as three people are gathered, there is a non-zero probability that they will include a same-sex pair with the same birthday and an opposite-sex pair with the same birthday. The sum of the probabilities of those events is therefore not equal to the probability of any matching birthday.