Sorry for the informality here, but was musing over the basic concepts around describing a set in real world usage: A finite set of explicitly named elements, this apple and that apple, nothing more straightforward. Then implicitly defined sets, like 'all pink rabbits' -- might be a finite set of rabbits, or maybe an infinite set including imaginary rabbits, but essentially you can rely on the fact you know it when you see it.
However, I was considering if you can't have sets where this 'know it when you see it' sort of property isn't true. For instance, how to think about a set of all 'good' people? I don't mean to get at the notion of people having different subjective definitions of 'good' -- Instead assume there is single definition of 'good' that can partition any group of people into good and not good provided total knowledge of how each person behaves in every given possible situation.
Based on the above understanding of inclusion, I'd think it's valid to define a set this way. But, it bothers me that it's impossible to determine whether a given element belongs to the set or not. We can only see how people will react in some finite subset of possible situations, but every situation or combination of situations is certainly some large infinity.
Instead there's an intuitive probabilistic notion based on the observable information -- Well, he walked that old lady across the street, looks normal, has friends, spoke about other people in a fair way, he is very probably a 'good' person. You still can't be certain he isn't a 'serial killer next door', because you never observed the relevant circumstances.
At this point should I just chuck out any notion of a set since it's a probabilistic inclusion operator instead of a concrete one? Would it be better to think of this in statistical terms with infinite dimensionality? Anyway, apologies if this comes off as the unmathematical rambling of some crank.
Your problem has nothing to do with "the notion of a set". It's just that you don't have an algorithm to determine whether a particular individual is a member of a certain set. This is a not uncommon situation, whether in the real world or in the world of mathematics. In mathematics, the situation can be worse: most sets of integers have no description at all.