I’m reading up on presentations of a group. In here, the example is the dihedral group $D_8$, with generators rotation $r$ of order $8$, and flip $f$ of order $2$. In the construction of the presentation of $D_8$ from the free group $F$ generated by those two letters $r$ and $f$, it’s fairly obvious why $r^8 = 1$ and $f^2 = 1$ are the necessary relations. But what about $rfrf = 1$? Where does it come from? What happens if we drop it from the presentation, i.e. if we just have $\langle r,f \mid r^8 = 1, f^2 = 1 \rangle$?
Also, just to be sure, when the article says that $D_8 \cong F/N$, does the argument implicitly involves a homomorphism $\phi: F \to D_8$, with $N$ as the kernel of $\phi$?
If you drop $rfrf=1$, you get the free product
$$\Bbb Z_8\ast\Bbb Z_2\cong\langle r,f\mid r^8, f^2\rangle$$
of the presentations $\Bbb Z_8\cong\langle r\mid r^8\rangle$ and $\Bbb Z_2\cong\langle f\mid f^2\rangle$.
Indeed, with a rotation of order two, we get the infinite dihedral group
$$D_\infty\cong \Bbb Z_2\ast\Bbb Z_2\cong\langle r,f\mid r^2, f^2\rangle.$$