I am trying to determine the equation of directrix and focus of the parabola which has tangents $y=x$ at $(3,3)$ and $y=-x$ at $(1,-1)$. Drawing a rough picture suggest that the parabola is oblique. Also since the foot of perpendicular from focus to any tangent lies on the tangent at vertex, this implies that the line joining the focus and the foot of perpendicular to tangent $y=x$ is of the form $x+y=k_1, k_1\in\mathbb{R}$ and also line joining focus and foot of perpendicular to tangent $y=-x$ is of the form $y=x+k_2,k_2\in\mathbb{R}$.
One standard method is to consider $ax^2+by^2+2gx+2fy+2hxy+c=0$ and write the equation of tangents with point of contact $(x_1,y_1)$ as $axx_1+byy_1+g(x+x_1)+f(y+y_1)+h(x_1y+xy_1)+c=0$ for both the tangents and compare with the equation of tangents but that is rather tedious.
It is unclear on how to proceed from here. Any hints involving only the geometry of the standard parabola without involvement of linear algebra techniques are appreciated. Thanks.
From the geometry of the standard parabola, we "know":
Further, as a consequence of the Reflection Property of the parabola, the reflection $P'$ of $F$ in asymptote $\overline{DP}$ is perpendicular to the directrix; since reflection provides that $\overline{FP}\cong\overline{PP'}$, and the definition of the parabola requires that $P$ is equidistant from $F$ and the directrix, we have that $P'$ is actually the foot of the perpendicular from $P$ to the directrix. Since $\triangle DFP\cong\triangle DP'P$, we conclude that $F$ is the foot of the perpendicular from $D$ to $\overline{PQ}$.
Applying this to the problem at hand ... Let the points be $P:=(3,3)$ and $Q:=(1,-1)$, and define $D:=(0,0)$.