I'm trying to find the curvature of the features in an image and I was advised to calculate the gradient vector of pixels. So if the matrix below are the values from a grayscale image, how would I go about calculating the gradient vector for the pixel with the value '99'?
21 20 22 24 18 11 23
21 20 22 24 18 11 23
21 20 22 24 18 11 23
21 20 22 99 18 11 23
21 20 22 24 18 11 23
21 20 22 24 18 11 23
21 20 22 24 18 11 23
Apologies for asking such an open ended question, I've never done much maths and am not sure how to start tackling this.

Suppose the image is continuous and differentiable in $x$ and $y$. Then $I(x,y)$ is the value of the pixel at each $(x,y)$, i.e. $I: \mathbb{R}^2 \mapsto \mathbb{R}$. Recall that the gradient at a point $(u,v)$ is:
$$ \nabla I(u,v) = \begin{bmatrix} \frac{\partial I}{\partial x}(u,v) \\ \frac{\partial I}{\partial y}(u,v) \end{bmatrix} $$
Given a discrete grid, you should approximate the partial derivative in $x$ and $y$ directions using finite difference approximations at the point of interest.
Assume your function $I$ is sampled over points $\{1, \ldots, 7 \} \times \{1, \ldots, 7 \}$ in image-coordinates, i.e. $I(1,1) = 21$, $I(1,7) = 23$, etc... So you're looking for the gradient at $(4,4)$. If you assume the resolution between points is 1, then the forward difference approximation in the $x$ direction gives:
$$ \frac{\partial I}{\partial x}(4,4) \approx I(5,4) - I(4,4) = 24 - 99 $$
Do the same in $y$ to obtain the full gradient at the point.