I am struggling with this a lot. I set the product of 2 elements in the field equal to 1 but cannot find a way to write the elements of one element in terms of the other.
Instead of just knowing the answer I’d like to understand how to find it so I can apply this again.
You can use a method that works in every field of the form $F(r)$, with $r$ of degree $n$ over $F$.
If you are given $t=a_0+a_1r+\dots+a_{n-1}r^n\in F(r)$, $t\ne0$, then you know that the map $u\mapsto tu$ is invertible. Then you can find its matrix with respect to the basis $\{1,r,\dots,r^{n-1}\}$ by taking $t,tr,\dots,tr^{n-1}$ (using the minimal polynomial to reduce higher powers). Find the matrix inverse and you're done, because the inverse is the image of the element $1$, whose coordinate vector is $\left[\begin{smallmatrix}1\\0\\0\end{smallmatrix}\right]$, so you just take the first column of the matrix.
Example for your case: the minimal polynomial is $x^2-2$; then the elements you need are $(a+b\sqrt{2})1$ and $(a+b\sqrt{2})\sqrt{2}=2b+a\sqrt{2}$. Thus the matrix is \begin{bmatrix} a & 2b \\ b & a \end{bmatrix} whose inverse is $$ \frac{1}{a^2-2b^2}\begin{bmatrix} a & -2b \\ -b & a \end{bmatrix} $$ and the first column will give the required inverse, namely $$ \frac{a}{a^2-2b^2}-\frac{b}{a^2-2b^2}\sqrt{2} $$ The same would do for $r=\sqrt[3]{2}$ and $t=a+br+cr^2$. The elements to compute are $$ a+br+cr^2,\quad (a+br+cr^2)r=2c+ar+br^2,\quad (a+br+cr^2)r^2=2b+2cr+ar^2 $$ so the matrix is $$ \begin{bmatrix} a & 2c & 2b \\ b & a & 2c \\ c & b & a \end{bmatrix} $$ The inverse matrix is $$ \frac{1}{a^3+2b^3+4c^3-6abc} \begin{bmatrix} a^2-2bc & 2b^2-2ac & 4c^2-2ab \\ 2c^2-ab & a^2-2bc & 2b^2-2ac \\ b^2-ac & 2c^2-ab & a^2-2bc \end{bmatrix} $$ so the inverse is $$ \frac{a^2-2bc}{a^3+2b^3+4c^3-6abc}+ \frac{2c^2-ab}{a^3+2b^3+4c^3-6abc}\sqrt[3]{2}+ \frac{b^2-ac}{a^3+2b^3+4c^3-6abc}\sqrt[3]{4} $$ Of course this is easier if you have explicit $a,b,c$.
By the way, this proves that if $t=a+br+cr^2\ne0$, then $a^3+2b^3+4c^3-6abc\ne0$ (this is the norm function).
In the $\mathbb{Q}(\sqrt{2})$ the norm function on $a+b\sqrt{2}$ is $a^2-b^2$.