Consider a univariate function $f(x)$. I know the graphical intuition behind why $f'(x)=0$ at the extrema of $f$. But how do you prove it mathematically?
I start with the assumption of $x^*$ being a minimum (the maximum case can be proved likewise), then $f(x^*+h) \geq f(x^*)$ where $h\in \mathcal{N}(x)$, $\mathcal{N}$ being the neighborhood. This gives,
$f(x^*) + hf'(x^*) + \frac{h^2}{2!} f''(x^*) + \ldots \geq f(x^*)$.
How do I proceed from here to prove that $f'(x^*) = 0$ and $f''(x^*) \geq 0$ ? This seems so simple but is eluding me.
NOTE: I do not want the proof for $\nabla f(\mathbf{x^*}) = 0$ and $\nabla^2 f(\mathbf{x^*}) \succeq 0$ for multivariate function.
Hint: if you want to take a different route, you can do this.
Starting from where you said $f(x^* + h) \geq f(x^*)$. Note that this can be rewritten as $$f(x^* + h) - f(x^*) \geq 0$$
Now consider the case where $h > 0$, then we can write $$\frac{f(x^* + h) - f(x^*)}{h} \geq 0$$
Do you see where this is going? Also consider the case where $h < 0$, and you should arrive at the conclusion you're looking for (without having to appeal to the second derivative).