Many books on calculus or advanced calculus distinguish between points and vectors. Usually points are denoted by italic letters like $P, Q$, and $R$, and vectors are denoted by bold letters such as $\mathbf{u}$ and $\mathbf{v}$. And some textbooks put the components of a vector between two angle brackets, while the coordinates of points are simply placed between two parentheses. However the notation is not consistant through the books. At least I have not seen any textbook that is consistent through the text. Here are two samples:
Sample 1: Marsden and Tromba in Vector Calculus
As you can see from the following figure, the point $P$ is not bold but vectors $\mathbf{v}$ and $\mathbf{w}$ are bold.
However, a few pages later, they denote points by bold letters

So a student might ask: is $\mathbf{x}_0$ a point or a vector?
Sample 2: Stewart Calculus
The equation of a line passing through $P_0$ and parallel to a vector $\mathbf{v}$ is described by $$``\mathbf{r}_0=\mathbf{r}_0+t\mathbf{v},$$ where $\mathbf{r}$ is the position vector of a point $P(x,y,z)$ and $\mathbf{r}_0$ is the position vector of $P_0$." So clearly here, he does not add a vector $t\mathbf{v}$ to a point $P_0$. (I mean he could simply write the line is $\{P_0+t\mathbf{v}| t\in\mathbb{R}\}$). But when he talks about directional derivative, he adds a vector $\mathbf{u}$ to a point $\mathbf{x}_0$:
A student may ask: if $\mathbf{x}_0$ is a point why is it denoted by a bold letter? And what is the meaning of adding a vector to a point? Adding a vector to a point has not been defined in the textbook.
What is the best and consistent notation? What are the benefits of using angle brackets and parentheses for vectors and points? How do you avoid confusing students?


Calculus textbooks seem to want to make a big distinction between vectors and points. I'm not sure how useful making that distinction is to students but it does seem to cause a lot of confusion. Here's how I think about it, which I hope is clear to my students. Having to use books like Stewart has made it challenging for me in the past to present a single view on points vs vectors.
What's the same: vectors and points in $\mathbb{R}^3$ have three bits of data. Each have an $x$, $y$, and $z$ coordinate. But what's different is what those coordinates mean. For a point we are talking about a position in space. For a vector $\langle a, b, c \rangle$ what we mean is something like "go $a$ units in the $x$-direction, $b$ in the $y$-direction, $c$ in the $z$-direction." This description of motion doesn't say from where we are going.
The basic operations are point + vector = point and vector + vector = vector. If we replace the word "vector" with displacement in these pseudo-equations, it says point + displacement = new point and displacement 1 + displacement 2 = total displacement. Here are two examples that I might use. (I'll switch to $\mathbb{R}^2$ now so it's easier to write.)
Example 1: "Starting at the point $(1, 2)$ go $3$ units left and $1$ up to get to the point $(-2,4)$." As an equation, this is $(1,2) + \langle -3, 1 \rangle = (-2, 4)$. The vector "$\langle -3, 1 \rangle$" is represented in words as "go $3$ units left and $1$ up".
Example 2: "If you go $3$ units left and $1$ unit up and then go $4$ units right and $2$ down, it's the same as going $1$ unit right and $1$ down." As an equation this is $\langle -3, 1 \rangle + \langle 4, -2 \rangle = \langle 1, -1 \rangle$. Each vector on the left represents a portion of the total displacement represented on the right.
For the books (I've used Stewart), I agree with you: I don't think most (any?) textbooks do a good job teaching about points vs vectors for exactly the reasons you've mentioned.
Here are my observations of how authors use notation (not rules for how you "have to" use notation but how authors do use it).
Points can be written either as $P(a,b,c)$ with an un-bolded, but capital letter (usually, $P, Q, R,\dots$ and maybe $O$ for $(0,0,0)$) or a point can be written the same way as a vector (lower case and bold).
When doing arithmetic, books never seem to want to add a point to a vector. That doesn't mean they don't, just that they usually butcher the explanation. For me, a line is a set of points, not a set of position vectors, so I would write $\{P + t\mathbf v : t \in \mathbb{R}\}$ with the understanding that the point $P$ plus the vector $t \mathbf v$ is a new point and the set of all those new points is the line.
I think the authors see a $+$ sign and think to themselves "well, I'm adding two things together and I said that we can't add two points together so I better convert everything to vectors." Of course, it makes perfect sense to add a vector to a point, but they never seem to want to do that. I think this leads to funny things like writing a line as a set of position vectors and writing points in lower case bold "vector-like" notation.