Using the affine linearized polynomial $f(x)=x^p-x-b$ is irreducible over $\mathbb{F}_q$ if and only if $\operatorname{Tr}_{\mathbb{F}_q/\mathbb{F}_p} \neq 0$. But here $\mathbb{F}_3$ is not a field extension of $\mathbb{F}_5$.
Also we have that: Let $a \in \mathbb{F}_q$ and let $p$ be the characteristic of $\mathbb{F}_q$. Then the trinomial $x^P - x - a$ is irreducible in $\mathbb{F}_q[x]$ if and only if it has no root in $\mathbb{F}_q$.
$x^5-x-1$ is indeed irreducible over $\mathbb{F}_3$, because it has no root and no quadratic factor.
Concerning primitivity, a counting shows that there are $\frac{\phi(3^5-1)}{5}=22$ monic primitive polynomials of degree $5$ over $\mathbb{F}_3$, and $\frac{3^5-3}{5}=48$ monic irreducible polynomials of degree $5$ over $\mathbb{F}_3$. Taking out the obvious non-primitive ones, the chances are good for $x^5-x-1$ to be primitive.