Note: The following definitions from my book, Discrete Mathematics and Its Applications [7th ed, 598].
This is my book's definition for a reflexive relation

This is my book's definition for a anti symmetric relation

Is a reflexive relation just the same as a anti symmetric relation? From what I've, the only way to meet that antisymmetric requirement is to have the same ordered pair, say an element a from Set A, (a,a). If you have anything other than the same ordered pair, (1,2) and (2,1), it will not meet the antisymmetric requirement. But the overall definition of reflexive relation is that it's the same ordered pair. Are they just two ways of saying the same thing? Is it possible to have one and not the other?
No, antisymmetric is not the same as reflexive.
An example of a relation that is reflexive, but not antisymmetric is the relation $$R={(1,1),(1,2),(2,2),(2,1)}$$ on $$A={1,2}.$$ It is reflexive because for all elements of $A$ (which are $1$ and $2$), $(1,1)\in R$ and $(2,2)\in R$. The relation is not anti-symmetric because $(1,2)$ and $(2,1)$ are in $R$, but $1\not=2$.
An example of a relation that is not reflexive, but is antisymmetric is the empty relation $R=\emptyset$ on $A={1}$. It doesn't have $(1,1)$ in it, but it is vacuously antisymmetric.
On a further note: reflexive is: $$\forall a\in A, (a,a)\in R.$$
Anti-symmetric is $$\forall (a,b),(b,a)\in R, a=b.$$
Note that the statements have different hypotheses and conclusions (even though they look similar).