My proof:
It is enough to show that if two partial orders on a finite set satisfy the same cover relation, then they must be the same order.
Let, $X$ is a finite set, and $\le_1$ and $\le_2$ be two partial orders on $X$ satisfying the same cover relation $\lt_c$. If possible, let $\le_2$ be distinct from $\le_1$, that is, $\exists a,b \in X, a\lt_2b, a\nless_1b$.
$a\lt_cb \implies a\lt_1b$, a contradiction, and so, $a\nless_cb$. Hence, $\exists x_1\in X, a\lt_2x_1\lt_2b$. By the same argument, $a\nless_cx_1$, and hence, $\exists x_2\in X, a\lt_2x_2\lt_2x_1$.
Hence, there are infinitely many elements $x_i \in X, a \lt_2 \dots \lt_2 x_2 \lt_2 x_1 \lt_2 b$. But this contradicts the assumption that $X$ is a finite set, and hence, $\le_1$ and $\le_2$ must be the same order.
Is the above proof correct?
PS: I am trying to learn combinatorics from Brualdi's "Introductory Combinatorics", and in chapter 4 this theorem is given as an exercise, with the hint to use transitivity. I don't see where transitivity can be used to prove this, so I'll appreciate it if somebody can give an hint regarding that.
Using OP's notation.
Claim 1: $a \leq_2 b \land a \neq b \Rightarrow a \leq_1 b$.
Suppose $a <_c b$, then $a \leq_1 b$ and we are done. If not $\exists x_0$ s.t. $a <_2 x_0 <_2 b$ s.t. $x_0 <_c b$.
(If $x_0 \not<_c b$, then we can find $x_1$ s.t. $x_0 <_2 x_1 <_2 b$. If $x_1 \not<_c b$, then we can find $x_2$, and so on. As the set is finite, this process must terminate, and hence such an $x_0$ exists)
If $a \not<_c x_0$, then we similar to previous case we can find $x_1$ s.t. $a <_2 x_1 <_2 x_0$ s.t. $x_1 <_c x_0$. We can iterate this process. Again as the set is finite, this process must terminate, which implies $\exists \{x_i \; | 0 \leq i \leq N \}$ s.t. $a <_2 x_0 \land (\forall i) x_i <_2 x_{i+1} \land x_N <_2 b \land a <_c x_0 \land (\forall i) x_i <_c x_{i+1} \land x_N <_c b$. Thus $a <_1 x_0 \land (\forall i) x_i <_1 x_{i+1} \land x_N <_1 b$, and by the transitivity of a partial order, we have $a \leq_1 b$.
Claim 2: $a \leq_2 a \Rightarrow a \leq_1 a$ (holds by reflexivity)
These claims show that $\leq_2 \; \subseteq \; \leq_1$. By symmetry, $\leq_1 \; \subseteq \; \leq_2$ which implies that $\leq_2 \; = \; \leq_1$.
Generalization: From the above proof, we see that the above property holds true for even preorders, as we only require reflexivity and transitivity.