Show that the equation below is only possible when $x=y$ $$ \sec^2{\theta}=\frac{4xy}{(x+y)^2}$$
The only way I can think of doing this is by rewriting it as
$$ \cos^2{\theta}=\frac{(x+y)^2}{4xy} $$ then using some inequalities to prove it by using: $$ 0\leq \cos^2{\theta}\leq 1 \;\; \text{ therefore } \;\; 0\leq \frac{(x+y)^2}{4xy}\leq 1 $$ But I have an aversion to using case-based solutions (checking for $x>0$, $y>0$ etc.) since I feel there must be a neater solution to these kind of problems. So my question is: Is it possible to solve this and these sort of questions using techniques that don't involve checking numerous cases?
We have $\sec^2 \theta\ge 1$ for all $\theta$ at which $\sec\theta$ is defined. So it is enough to show that $\frac{4xy}{(x+y)^2}\le 1$, with equality only when $x=y$.
To show that $\frac{4xy}{(x+y)^2}\le 1$, we show equivalently that $(x+y)^2\ge 4xy$, or equivalently that $x^2-2xy+y^2\ge 0$. But this is clear, since $x^2-2xy+y^2=(x-y)^2$. And we have equality precisely when $x=y$.
Remark: This is not very different from how you proposed to do things. There are no cases involved. And aversion to cases can be problematic. A consideration of cases (though not in this case) is often a natural approach.