Set Theory begins with a fundamental binary relation between and object $o$ and a set $A$. If $o$ is a member of $A$, write $o \in A $.
I thought that a binary relation is a collection of ordered pairs of elements of $A$.
Why is relating one element of a set to the set a binary relation?
Thanks.
Here the term binary relation has a different meaning, you should interpret it as one would colloquially interpret the term binary relation: a relation between two things. It's not a mathematical concept, but rather one belonging to the natural language.
Restating, binary relation as a mathematical term is a set of ordered pairs, as a natural language term it is a 'relation' between two things and you can't expect to define 'relation' here.