Arrange the vertices of $K_{13}$ in such a way that they form a regular $13$-gon. Color the edges (which are now either edges or diagonals of the 13-gon) in read and blue, where an edge is colored red if and only if it is either an edge of the $13$-gon or a diagonal such that 4 vertices lie on one of the its sides and 7 vertices on the other side. Use this coloring to show that $R(3,5) \geq 14$. Then use the lemma showing bounds for the Ramsey numbers to prove that $R(3,5) = 14$.
Any ideas? I'm already having difficulty imaging the situation and the problem.
Using the inequality lemma you have already proved that $R(3,5) \leq 14$, so if you find a red-blue coloring for $k_{13}$ such that there is no red $k_ 3$ and no blue $k_5$ you would have proven that $R(3,5) > 13$ which means that $R(3,5)=14$
The required coloring is described in your exercise:
and of course the rest is blue.
so first you draw the red 13-gon and then you add from each vertex a diagonal such that it has 4 vertices on one side and 7 on the other. Something like this:
finally you get :
this is the red edges in the coloring and which they do not contain a $k_3$
now you continue your coloring, by connecting each vertex to the remaining 10 vertices with the color blue, which will also not contain a blue $k_5$
One note though: if your textbook have not proved that $R(3,4)=9$ before, then you are required to, and this can be done using the same idea: