My textbook definition on symmetric relation:
A relation R on a set A is called symmetric if(b, a) ∈ R whenever(a, b) ∈ R, for all a, b ∈ A.
Giving a set $A= \{ {1,2,3,4}\}$
and a relation $R1 = \{{(1,1) (1,2)(2,1)}\}.$
$R2 = \{{(1, 1), (1, 2), (1, 4), (2, 1), (2, 2), (3, 3), (4, 1), (4, 4)}\}$
How come both R1 and R2 are symmetric since they haven't considered other relations such as (1,3), (2,3)etc. Isn't for all a, b ∈ A in the definition means you have to consider every single element in set A?
Let us consider $R_1$. Yes, it is symmetric. What this means is: for each $a$ and each $b$ in $A$, if $(a,b)\in R_1$, then $(b,a)\in R_1$ too. So, for each $a$ and each $b$ in $A$, see whether it belongs to $R_1$. If it doesn't, forget it; there's nothing to deduce from that. Otherwise, you have to check whether $(b,a)$ belongs to $R_1$ too.
In particular, the fact that $(1,3)\notin R_1$ is not a problem. On the other hand, if $(1,3)\in R_1$ but $(3,1)\notin R_1$, then, yes, we would be able to deduce that $R_1$ is not symmetric.