I'm having hard time figuring out a method for dealing with this type of system of equations. I know they have nice solution, the following system has a solution $p=2$ and $q=1$, $p=\frac{22}{5}$ and $q=\frac{-31}{5}$
$$ \left\{ \begin{array}{c} -4p^2-q^2+4pq-18p-36q+81=0 \\ -p^2-4q^2-4pq+8p-4q+4=0 \end{array} \right. $$
I know one way is to factorise them both into two trinomials and get something like : $(ax+by+c)(dx+ey+f)=0$ which then can be combined in system of linear equations (up to 4). I also tried solving a quadratic equation in terms of p or q but ends nothing close to solvable.
$\left\{ \begin{array}{c} -4p^2-q^2+4pq-18p-36q+81=0 \\ -p^2-4q^2-4pq+8p-4q+4=0 \end{array} \right.$
Just to noodle about. $-4p^2-q^2+4pq-18p-36q+81 = -(2p -q)^2 -18(p+ 2q) + 81=0$
And $-(p+2q)^2 +4(2p-q) + 4= 0$
So $(2p-q)^2 + 4(2p-q) + 4 = (p+2q)^2 - 18(p+2q) + 81 = (2p-q)^2 + (p+2q)^2$
$(2p-q +2)^2 = (p+2q - 9)^2 = 5(p^2 + q^2)$
$(2p - q + 2) = \pm (p+2q - 9)$
Case 1:
$2p - q + 2 = p+2q - 9$
$p = 3q - 11$
So
$(5q - 20)^2=5((3q-11)^2 +q^2)$
$25q^2 - 200q + 400)= 5(10q^2-66q + 121)$
$25q^2 -130q +205=0$
But $130^2 - 4*205*25 < 0$
So this leads to a contradiction.
Case 2:
$2p - q + 2 = -p-2q + 9$
$q = -3p +7$
So
$(5p -5)^2=5(p^2 + (-3p+7)^2)$
$25p^2 - 50p + 25 = 5(10p^2 -42p + 49)$
$25p^2 -160p +220 =0$
$5p^2 - 32p + 44 = 0$
$p =\frac {32 \pm\sqrt{32^2 - 44*4*5}}{10}$
$= \frac {32 \pm 4{\sqrt 9}}{10} =\frac {32 \pm 12}{10} = 2, \frac {22}5$
$q = -3p +7 = 1,\frac {-31}5$