Considering an ellipse with the $x$ radius equal to $a$ and the $y$ radius equal to b$:$
I figured that some kind of parameterization might be:
$x=a\cos\theta$
$y=b\sin\theta$
and then polar $r^2$ is just $x^2 + y^2$
But then I tried to come up with some unit of infinitesimal area using triangles $\left(\dfrac{d\theta r^2}{2}\right)$ which does not give the correct answer. I read somewhere that my polar coordinates are wrong and that they are actually
$x=ar\cos\theta$
$y=br\sin\theta$
But this does not make sense to me as an engineer because that seems like it would have the dimension of area equal to the dimension of a distance. The integral also takes $r$ from $0$ to $1$ which I thought was eliminated because the equation for $r$ should be in terms of $\theta$ and the constants $a$ and $b.$
I would like some explanation of what I am doing wrong that would make some "physical" sense (or why physical intuition might fail for this problem)


Your parametrization only covers the edge of the ellipse. This is not enough if you try to find the area, which is the full interior. Hence the second form with $r$ (which is integrated from 0 to 1) is correct to find the area. Yours would be ok, if you try to only find the circumference.