The most common definition of antisymmetry of a relation $R$ on a set $S$ is
$$ \forall a, b \in S, R(a, b) \land R(b, a) \to a = b. $$
However, this doesn't cover a relation such as $<$, for example, since there is no way to have $a<b$ and $b>a$ simultaneously (according to traditional definitions). A better way to describe the antisymmetry of $<$, then, is to write
$$ \forall a, b \in S, R(a,b) \to \lnot R(b, a) $$
Of course, a relation which satisfies the second definition will satisfy the first (because the hypothesis of the first would then be a contradiction) but not the other way around, so this is a distinct and more specific notion. Is there a name for this kind of antisymmetry?
The definition of antisymmetry does cover relations like $<$. If you examine that definition carefully, you’ll see that in order for a relation $R$ to violate it, there must be elements $a,b\in S$ such that $R(a,b)$, $R(b,a)$, and $a\ne b$. If you can’t even find elements $a,b\in S$ such that $R(a,b)$ and $R(b,a)$, then you certainly can’t find elements that violate antisymmetry of $R$. Thus, all totally irreflexive relations like $<$ are automatically antisymmetric. (The technical expression is that they are vacuously antisymmetric.)
Your second property is asymmetry: a relation with that property is said to be asymmetric.