In the Short Five Lemma

where the rows are exact, it is a fact that $$\alpha \text{ and }\gamma \text{ injective (surjective) }\implies \beta \text{ injective (surjective)}.$$ I've heard this fact summarized as "if $\beta\left.\right|_A$ is injective (surjective) and $\tilde{\beta}:B/A \to B'/\beta(A)$ is injective (surjective), then $\beta$ is injective (surjective)".
This explanation makes a good deal of sense to me, and I'm looking for a similar explanation for the four lemma, and also for questions like this:

In these cases, we could talk about $B$ containing $A / \ker \psi$, and induced maps on this. Is this the way to go?
Would it be advantageous to consider this from a categorical perspective?
I'm trying to have exercises like the above be not a collection of random facts, but a picture of what's really going on, and explanations like the one above are very helpful.
Hre's one way of looking at (a) of your posted question: