I am not form Math field and would like to know if distance matrices of two graphs are equal then those graphs are isomorphic or not or it's an open problem. Any tip for starting point or direction of the proof is also appreciated.
(The distance matrix of a graph is the matrix with the $ij$ entry being the distance between $v_{i}$ and $v_{j}$.)
PS: I prefer to stay away from row/column permutation problem at the moment. Let's assume if two graphs are isomorphic then their nodes are labeled in the same manner.
It is not true for weighted graphs. Take the graph made by three nodes $a,b,c$ with weight matrix: $$\begin{matrix} 0 & 1 & 0 \\ 1 & 0 & 1 \\ 0 & 1 & 0 \\ \end{matrix}$$ Its distance matrix is $$\begin{matrix} 0 & 1 & 2 \\ 1 & 0 & 1 \\ 2 & 1 & 0 \\ \end{matrix}$$ Now take the graph made by the same set of points but with weight matrix: $$\begin{matrix} 0 & 1 & 2 \\ 1 & 0 & 1 \\ 2 & 1 & 0 \\ \end{matrix}$$ Which is just adding an edge between node $a$ and $c$ with weight 2, now the distance matrix is: $$\begin{matrix} 0 & 1 & 2 \\ 1 & 0 & 1 \\ 2 & 1 & 0 \\ \end{matrix}$$ and it is the same as before but the two graphs are not isomorphic, since they have different adjacents nodes.
EDIT:
Now consider unweighted graphs:
if we allow graphs to have self-loops then the statement is not true, just take a graph without self-loops and then add one self loop.
The two graph will have the same distance matrix since the distance of one node from itself is $0$ and the rest of the graph is the same, but the two graph are not isomorphic.
Now consider two unweighted directed graphs with the same distance matrix, then in order for them to not be isomorphic there must be (at least) one edge that exists in one graph but not in the other (they have the same distance matrix so the number of nodes is the same).
Let's take that edge and let's call the starting node $a$ and the end node $b$, now call $G_1$ the graph with this edge and $G_2$ the graph without it.
Since $G_1$ has the edge then in its distance matrix at the line corresponding to the node $a$ and at the column corresponding to the node $b$ we will have $1$ (the matrix is made by $1$, $0$ and $\infty$ since the graph is unweighted and we can't have $0$ since we are assuming no self-loops and since the edge exists by assumption we can't have $\infty$), but since the distance matrices are the same also the distance matrix of $G_2$ will have the $1$ at that position.
Now we have a path in $G_2$ from $a$ to $b$ which has length $1$, the only way to have that in an unweighted graph is to have the direct edge from $a$ to $b$.