I want to
a) show that $i$ and $\sqrt{2}$ are in $\mathbb Q(i+\sqrt{2})$ and that $[\mathbb Q(i+\sqrt{2}):\mathbb Q]=4$
b) find the minimal polynomial of $i+\sqrt{2}$ over $\mathbb Q$.
Now I can solve both parts easily by first doing b) and show that $x^4+6x+1$ is the sought for polynomial of degree 4, whence $[\mathbb Q(i+\sqrt{2}):\mathbb Q]=4$ follows. Independent of this, the first part of a) is of course easy to verify. But how do I go from there to $[\mathbb Q(i+\sqrt{2}):\mathbb Q]=4$ without going via b)?
The standard way is to see (using what you showed) that $\mathbb Q(i + \sqrt{2}) = \mathbb Q(i,\sqrt{2})$ (the inclusion of the right side in the left being obvious, and the opposite inclusion being the first part of (a)).
Now write $\mathbb Q(i,\sqrt{2})$ as an iterated extension, namely $\mathbb Q(\sqrt{2})(i).$ The first of these is quadratic, and the second has degree either $1$ of $2$. But since $i \not\in \mathbb Q(\sqrt{2})$ (there are many ways to check this, but the easiest is perhaps to observe that $\mathbb Q(\sqrt{2}) \subset \mathbb R,$ while $i \not\in \mathbb R$), its degree must be $2$. The second part of (a) follows.