I just learned the following beautiful result about flat modules from J. S. Milne's book Étale Cohomology:
Lemma 2.10(b'): Let $M$ be any flat $A$-module. If $$\sum_i a_ix_i=0,$$ $a_i\in A$, $x_i\in M$, then there are equations $$x_i = \sum_j a_{ij}x_j'$$ with $x_j'\in M$, $a_{ij}\in A$, such that $$\sum_i a_ia_{ij} = 0$$ for all $j$.
It is stated under the hypothesis that $A$ is a commutative, noetherian ring, but as far as I can tell, the proof does not use noetherianity. (Actually I am not sure it even uses commutativity, but I will leave that matter alone for the purposes of this question.)
The proof given in Milne is essentially computational. However, the result struck me as almost a statement that something is exact (I'll make this precise in a moment), and of course flatness is all about exactness, so I wondered, is there a conceptual argument, or at least some reasonably satisfying conceptual handwaving, that gives us the claimed result in terms of an assertion that something is exact, or some (co)homology vanishes, in a way that is straightforwardly connected to $M$'s flatness?
(I'm using the soft-question tag because, while there could easily be a fully precise answer [which would be best possible], I will probably be happy with what I'm calling "satisfying conceptual handwaving," and what I mean by "straightforwardly" isn't precise either. Apologies in advance about this vagueness.)
Here is what I mean when I say the result struck me as "almost a statement that something is exact". The tuple $(a_i)_{i=1,\dots,r}$ defines a map $\varphi: M^r\rightarrow M$ by
$$(y_i)_{i=1,\dots,r} \mapsto \sum_i a_iy_i.$$
If $A$ is commutative, this is a map of $A$-modules. Then the equation
$$\sum_i a_ix_i=0$$
asserts that $(x_1,\dots,x_r)\in M^r$ lies in the kernel of this map. Similarly, the matrix $(a_{ij})$ defines a map $\psi: M^s\rightarrow M^r$ by
$$(y'_j)_{j=1,\dots,s}\mapsto \left(\sum_j a_{ij}y'_j\right)_{i=1,\dots,r},$$
whereupon the equations
$$\sum_i a_ia_{ij} = 0$$
assert that the composed map $\psi\circ\varphi = 0$, and the equations
$$x_i = \sum_j a_{ij}x_j'$$
assert that $(x_1,\dots,x_r)$ lies in the image of $\psi$. Thus the lemma "comes close" to asserting that we have a complex $M^s\xrightarrow{\psi} M^r \xrightarrow{\varphi} M$ which is exact in the middle.
It is not actually asserting this because the matrix $(a_{ij})$ is allowed to depend on the tuple $(x_i)$ (and the proof indeed requires the data of the $(x_i)$ for the construction of the $(a_{ij})$). So the real statement is: given an $A$-linear map $\varphi: M^r\rightarrow M$ defined by a tuple $(a_1,\dots,a_r)$, and given an element $(x_1,\dots,x_r)$ of the kernel of this map, there is an $A$-linear map $\varphi: M^s\rightarrow M^r$ defined by a matrix $(a_{ij})$, such that $M^s\rightarrow M^r\rightarrow M$ forms a complex and the particular given $(x_1,\dots,x_r)\in M^r$ lies in the image of $\psi$. There is no assertion that the entire kernel of $\varphi$ is exhausted by the image of $\psi$.
Nonetheless, these musings are sufficiently suggestive to me that I wanted to ask here: can you explain Milne's Lemma 2.10(b') in terms of the exactness of something, or the vanishing of some homology or cohomology, in a way that is evidently linked to $M$'s flatness over $A$?
Maybe you already know this and are looking for something more conceptual, but here's a way to connect this statement to a more homologically flavoured one.
A module $M$ over some commutative ring $R$ is flat precisely if $\mathbf{Tor}_1^R(R/I,M)$ vanishes for all finitely generated ideals $I \subset R$.
A handwavy proof: $M$ is flat if $\mathbf{Tor}_1^R(N,M)$ vanishes for all $N$. By cocontinuity using that every module is the colimit of its finitely generated submodules, flatness is equivalent to the vanishing of $\mathbf{Tor}_1^R(N,M)$ for all $N$ finitely generated. Such a module sits in a filtration with cyclic quotients and allows us to assume $N$ to be cyclic, hence of the form $R/I$. "$\square$"
Moreover, in the same proposition it is shown that $M$ is flat if for any finitely generated ideal $I \subset R$ tensoring the inclusion gives an injective map $I \otimes M \to M$. This is a matter of using the aforementioned equivalence and the long exact sequence for $\mathbf{Tor}$ applied to the short exact sequence
$$ 0 \to I \to R \to R/I \to 0. $$
Indeed, since $\mathbf{Tor}_1^R(R,M) = 0$ we have
$$ 0 \to \mathbf{Tor}_1^R(R/I,M) \to I \otimes M \to R \otimes M \simeq M $$ so the vanishing of $\mathbf{Tor}$ is exactly characterized the injectivity of $I \otimes M \to M$.
Therefore, flatness is intrinsically related to all the kernels of inclusion-induced maps $\langle a_1, \ldots, a_n\rangle \otimes M \to M$. Concretely, for $M$ to be flat we need that whenever
$$ \sum_{i}b_i a_i m_i = 0 $$ in $M$, $$ \sum_{i} b_i a_i \otimes m_i = 0 $$ in $\langle a_1, \ldots, a_n\rangle \otimes M$. This already looks connected to the equational criterion, and in fact the connection comes from the following lemma on zero elements of certain tensor products,
All of this can be found in section $6.3$ of Eisenbud's Commutative Algebra with a View Toward Algebraic Geometry.