I have gotten comfortable working with coordinate bases but I still do not fully understand them. Let $\mathbb{Q}$ be a smooth $n$-manifold and $q=(q^1,\dots,q^n):Q\to \mathbb{R}^n$ some local coordinates on some region $Q\subseteq\mathbb{Q}$. For this question, I will denote the associated $q^i$ basis vector fields as $\mathbf{e}_i\in\mathfrak{X}(\mathbb{Q})$ with dual 1-form fields $\pmb{\epsilon}^i\in\Omega^1(\mathbb{Q})$. We may write (locally) any $\mathbf{u}\in\mathfrak{X}(\mathbb{Q})$ in this basis in the usual way: $\mathbf{u}= \pmb{\epsilon}^i(\mathbf{u})\mathbf{e}_i = u^i\mathbf{e}_i$.
Rather than $\mathbf{e}_i$, many sources would instead write $\partial_i$ or $\frac{\partial}{\partial q^i}$. I get that, as a differential operator acting on functions, we have $\mathbf{u}[f] = \mathbf{d}f(\mathbf{u}) = u^i\frac{\partial}{\partial q^i} f$. This is then often used to justify writing $\mathbf{u}$ itself as $u^i\frac{\partial}{\partial q^i}$ and this is what confuses me. In the expression $u^i\frac{\partial}{\partial q^i} f\in\mathcal{F}(\mathbb{Q})$, the role of $\frac{\partial}{\partial q^i}$ is not confusing to me; I view it as the "standard" partial derivative in essentially the same way that any undergraduate student would view it in intro calculus. But I do not understand what type of object $u^i\frac{\partial}{\partial q^i}$ itself is supposed to be.
my question: If $\mathbf{u}=u^i\mathbf{e}_i\in\mathfrak{X}(\mathbb{Q})$ is the actual tensor (expressed in a particular basis), is it accurate to write $\mathbf{u}=u^i\frac{\partial}{\partial q^i}$? If so, this implies $\frac{\partial}{\partial q^i} = \mathbf{e}_i \in \mathfrak{X}(\mathbb{Q})$ are the exact same object? Or, is the use of $\frac{\partial}{\partial q^i}$ as a basis vector merely a slight abuse of notation alluding to the fact that $\mathbf{e}_i[f] = \frac{\partial}{\partial q^i}f$?
In other words, if I insist on reserving the notation $\frac{\partial}{\partial q^i}$ for the "standard" partial derivative one encounters in basic calculus, is this same object also literally a vector field on the domain of the function $q^i$? Or, instead, does there exist some vector field $\mathbf{e}_i\in\mathfrak{X}(\mathbb{Q})$ on the domain of the coordinate $q^i$ whose action on a function is given by $\mathbf{e}_i[f] = \frac{\partial}{\partial q^i}f$, but where $\mathbf{e}_i$ and $\frac{\partial}{\partial q^i}$ are not literally the same object?
One way of defining the tangent space on a manifold is to define its vectors as derivations.
Further, note, that $\partial_i$ on a manifold is not the "standard" elementary partial derivative to begin with – it is rather a chart dependent notion of differentiation on the manifold. Given a chart $(U, \psi)$, a function $f \colon M \to \mathbb{R}$ and a point $p \in U$ we have $$ \partial_i f(p) = \big( \partial_i (f \circ \psi^{-1}) \big)\big(\psi(p)\big), $$ where only the $\partial_i$ on the right hand side is an elementary partial derivative.
If you take this point of view, identifying tangent space vectors with derivations, then it is natural to identify the $\partial_i$ on the left-hand side with a vector field (just defined on the chart – not necessarily on the whole manifold). Futhermore, the $\partial_i$ at $p$ will form a basis of the tangent space $T_pM$.
The connection to other representations of the tangent space is given by vector space isomorphisms. This is a common theme in mathematics: Construct something in different manners, show that the constructions are isomorphic, and the identify them by this equivalence as the same underlying object in different guises. Then you can freely use the one or the other picture as required or convenient for the problem at hand.
We consider a manifold $M$ smoothly embedded into $\mathbb{R}^n$, the tangent vectors at $p$ in the tangent hyperplane are denoted by $\tilde T_p M$, while the tangent space formulated in terms of derivations is $T_p M$.
Any function $f \in C^\infty(\mathbb{R}^n)$ induces a function $f \in C^\infty(M)$ (by restricting the domain). Given a vector $\mathbf{e} \in \tilde T_p M$, we can define a functional $D_p \colon C^\infty(M) \to \mathbb{R}$ $$ D_p f = \mathbf{e} \cdot \nabla f(p) $$ (where $\nabla f$ is the usual gradient of $f$ in $\mathbb{R}^n$)
We can easily check, this functional $D_p$ is a derivation at $p$, so it is an element of $T_pM$. Further it is easy to prove, that this mapping from $\tilde T_pM \to T_pM$ does preserve vector addition and scaling – so it is a vector space homomorphism. (And you can also carry over additional properties, like the scalar product, if you consider the Riemannian structure induced on the embedded manifold from the metric in the embedding space.)
Conversely, you can show that any derivation $D_p$ corresponds to a vector in $\tilde T_p M$. (This is a bit more involved – you need to compute the dimension of $T_p M$ and show that the mapping $\mathbf{e} \mapsto D_p$ above is injective.)
So in summary, there is a vector space isomorphism identifying the tangent vectors as derivations to tangent vectors in a hyperplane of the embedding space – and this allows you to think of $\mathbf{e}_\phi$ as $\partial_\phi$. The most intuitive way you can formulate this, is that vectors exactly correspond to directional derivatives.