Suppose we have 2 normal distributions $X$ and $Y$ with mean $u_1$ and $u_2$ and variance $\sigma_1^2$ and $\sigma_2^2$; find $E[X\mid Y]$ and $\operatorname{Var}(X\mid Y)$.
I know $$E[X\mid Y] = \mu_1 + \rho\sigma_1 \frac{Y - u_2}{\sigma_2} $$ and $$\operatorname{Var}[X\mid Y] = \sigma_1 (1 - \rho^2)$$ but I can't prove it.
For $E[X\mid Y]$ I start with $$E[X\mid Y] = \int_{-\infty}^{+\infty} x f_{X|Y}(x\mid y)\ dx$$ but that doesn't work because for calculating $f_{X\mid Y}(x\mid y)$ I need $f_{X,Y}(x,y)$ I don't have that. Can any one help me?
The density approach will work. In the simplest case, assume that $X$ and $Y$ are each standard normal, with correlation $\rho$, so that the joint density of $(X,Y)$ is $$ f(x,y)=\frac1{2\pi\sqrt{1-\rho^2}}\exp \left[-\frac1{2(1-\rho^2)}(x^2-2\rho xy+y^2)\right] $$ while the marginal density of $Y$ is $$f(y)=\frac1{\sqrt{2\pi}}\exp\left[-\left(\frac{y^2}2\right)\right]. $$ The conditional density $\displaystyle f(x\mid y)=\frac{f(x,y)}{f(y)}$ is the ratio of these. So conditional on $Y=y$, the density of $X$ is $$\begin{align} f(x\mid y)&=\frac1{\sqrt{2\pi(1-\rho^2)}}\exp\left[-\frac1{2(1-\rho^2)}(x^2-2\rho xy+y^2-(1-\rho^2)y^2)\right]\\ &= \frac1{\sqrt{2\pi(1-\rho^2)}}\exp\left[-\frac1{2(1-\rho^2)}(x-\rho y)^2\right]\end{align} $$ which we recognize as the density of a normal random variable with mean $\rho y$ and variance $1-\rho^2$. It follows that $$ E(X\mid Y=y) = \rho y\qquad{\rm and}\qquad \operatorname{Var}(X\mid Y=y)=1-\rho^2.$$
For the general case, write $\displaystyle X':=\frac{X-\mu_1}{\sigma_1}$ and $\displaystyle Y':=\frac{Y-\mu_2}{\sigma_2}$. Apply the previous case to $X'$ and $Y'$, and conclude $$\begin{aligned} E\left (X\mid Y=y\right)&=E\left(\mu_1+\sigma_1 X'\biggm| Y'=\frac{y-\mu_2}{\sigma_2}\right)=\mu_1+\sigma_1 E\left(X'\biggm| Y'=\frac{y-\mu_2}{\sigma_2}\right)\\ &=\mu_1+\sigma_1\rho\left(\frac{y-\mu_2}{\sigma_2}\right) =\mu_1+\rho\frac{\sigma_1}{\sigma_2}(y-\mu_2) \end{aligned} $$ and $$\begin{aligned} \operatorname{Var}(X\mid Y=y)&=\operatorname{Var}\left(\mu_1+\sigma_1 X'\biggm| Y'=\frac{y-\mu_2}{\sigma_2}\right) =\sigma_1^2\operatorname{Var}\left( X'\biggm| Y'=\frac{y-\mu_2}{\sigma_2}\right)\\ &=\sigma_1^2(1-\rho^2).\end{aligned} $$