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I have answered my question in typing this up. Now that I've put it together, though, I reckon it's worth sharing so that others may benefit; I could also have made a mistake. It'd help to see a different proof/solution, too, I suppose.
The Question:
Suppose $H\unlhd G$. Show that if $x$ and $y$ are elements of $G$ such that $xy\in H$, then $yx\in H$. Would this be true merely on the hypothesis that $H\le G$? [Emphasis added.]
Thoughts:
I think normality of $H$ in $G$ is necessary.
Suppose $H\unlhd G$. Let $x,y\in G$ such that $xy\in H$. By normality, $H=yHy^{-1}$, so, in particular, $y(xy)y^{-1}=yx\in H$.
Now suppose $H\le G$ but $H\not\lhd G$. Let $a,b\in G$ such that $ab\in H$.
My first thought is that, if there is a counterexample, such a group $G$ must not be abelian, since otherwise $ba=ab\in H$ trivially. Also, $a\neq b^{-1}$ and vice versa.
This led me to consider the smallest nonabelian group $S_3\cong D_3$, the dihedral group of order $6$. If we let $H=\{{\rm id}, (12)\}$, maybe we could get somewhere. Nothing leaps out at me as an obvious choice of $a,b$ as above; we would need $ab=(12)$ and $ba\in\{(13), (23), (123), (321)\}$; so let's try, based on experience, $a=(123), b=(23)$; then $ab=(123)(23)=(12)\in H$ and $ba=(23)(123)=(13)\notin H$.
Thus normality is necessary.
Do you have an alternative approach?
Please help :)
When you say "Let $a,b\in G$ such that $ab\in H$", that doesn't exploit the explicit non-normality of $H$. You want to get right on that from the start. For instance, if you instead say:
Then the proof is over in two short sentences: